The SAH-AP mailing list is a support and learning forum for moms
or dads
who make attachment style parenting a way of life.
In order to get a feel for the rhythm, tone, and personality of
the list as a whole,
please read the postings that come through the list for a period of 2
weeks before posting
or replying to posts on the list. If after 2 weeks you feel this list is
for you, feel
free to post. A website containing FAQ and Links which reflect
discussion on SAH-AP can be found at: GentleParenting.com
Three additional pieces of information will further
orient you to our community.
 | For those interested in outside reading, a book list which
reflects the parental
philosophies of SAH-AP is being compiled at:
http://www.gentleparenting.com/books.html |
| Following this message, you will receive a list of Email
Netiquette
Rules. SAH-AP is a very high volume list. It is important
that everyone
respect these Rules so the list runs
smoothly. |
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Content and Tone
This is a support and learning
environment. Therefore, the exchange of ideas and
experiences is encouraged. Criticisms or challenges to
ideas and
concepts in a generalized fashion are
acceptable. Flaming is a personal
attack, such as name
calling or accusation, and will not be tolerated. Commenting on
other people's Posting Style on the SAH-AP
List is unacceptable. Follow this
general rule of thumb:
"Hard on ideas, soft on people."
Topics of discussion can include (but are not
necessarily limited to):
| The belief that little separation between parent/child
(especially in the early years)
promotes optimal attachment and
security. |
| How gentle pregnancy/birthing promotes optimal bonding.
Therefore,informed decisions
achieving a gentle pregnancy/birth is
important. |
| How breastfeeding, extended breastfeeding, and delayed solids
contributes to attachment
styles. |
| How shared sleeping promotes bonding
and security. |
| How slings are used as a tool to promote
bonding. |
| How overuse of infant carriers, swings, playpens, etc., can
detract from bonding. |
| How nonpunitive forms of discipline and guidance foster
attachment. |
| How making informed decisions regarding a child's health
(vaccinations, diet, etc.)
affects parent/child
attachment. |
| How infant circumcision detracts from
bonding. |
| How attachment parenting works with an older
child. |
| How homeschooling/unschooling can help maintain
attachment. |
| How to cope with being a stay at home parent on a day to day
basis (isolation, one
income, self-esteem, other personal interests).
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This mailing
list does not support forced
weaning, sleep training, routine infant circumcision or any other parenting method which contributes
to detachment
between child and parent. If anyone wishes to bring these topics to the
forum be prepared
for strong opposing views. Postings which promote spanking,
"swats" or
other violence towards children as a means of discipline are
not welcome;
those who seek alternatives to their current spanking discipline are
encouraged to ask for
ideas and assistance. Subscribers who post pro-spanking posts or
anything promoting violence towards children will be asked to stop. If it
does not stop after one warning, the offender will be removed from the list..
How to Post
Send messages to sah-ap@kjsl.com. Remember,
your message is going to at least 200 people at any given time, so try to
make your message
relevant to the whole group. Please snip the post that you are
quoting, and do not
send simple "me too" posts to the list. Please turn off
any rich text,
fancy fonts, or attachments.
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Karen Henderson
SAH-AP Listowner
